The truth is when bad stuff happens, and we decide that it happened TO US we become a sort of victim. And victims tend to look for sympathy and attention, not resolutions. They eventually become weaker. 

Survivors look for help, but what they look for is understanding and solutions and eventually receive admiration. The become stronger 

The world loves victims, something I think it’s because we then feel better about ourselves. But the world also loves survivors. We admire them.

I say become an inspiration to yourself.